Welcome to another week on the Wellness Corner with Cassandra. This week I want to talk about letting go and how that affects our wellness. It can feel necessary at times to hold on to unhealthy relationships that affect your wellbeing and wellness. Toxic relationships can come in the form of friends, family and love interests. Instead of setting boundaries and holding people accountable in life, so often excuses are made for them that allow individuals to continue with their behaviors. Changing your mind about the situation, and developing the attitude that, I am not a savior, and that only the Savior in heaven, can save them, will lead you in the direction of peace. I am sure you have all heard the saying, "We teach people how to treat us." As cliché as it might be, it is full of truth. If you do not stand up for you, who will? I mean, there is that rare chance of your knight in shining armor coming and whisking you away from all your problems, however, even he cannot change the regard you have for yourself!
First Step to Letting Toxicity Go
Examine the friends and romantic relations you have in your life. Are these relationships serving you in a way that is nurturing and loving? Are you always in conflict with specific individuals? Do you find yourself having to prove your worth and value? Are you communicating with people who still see the worst in you; however, they continue to make excuses for their wrongful behaviors? If you have answered yes to over half of these questions, it is time to clean up the people you allow in your personal space. People that genuinely love you accept you for who you are. They are not looking to change you into something that makes them more comfortable. Real friendships and love relationships are built on commitment, support, and truth. And if you see signs of alcoholism, and other co-dependencies in people you are trying to love, accept that you cannot change them. They are the only ones who can change themselves. And if they wish to continue with these harmful behaviors, pray for them, set boundaries, and move on with your life.
Forgive yourself for the time you have wasted in toxic relationships. Give yourself some love and appreciation for acknowledging them and moving forward from them! Treat yourself to things that make you happy. When you are ready to bring people into your life again, make sure they make you smile and laugh. This is not an easy task friends and takes lots of practice, but I believe it is possible. Trust that you deserve the best and that letting go is okay.
Don’t Look Back
Once you have made a decision, don't look back! There will be times when you feel you are strong enough to endure the pain, however, remember it is not worth your time or effort. People will oftentimes show you their best self, only to get what they want from you. Do not keep people around that do not value you and find ways to hurt you any opportunity they get. Keep moving and looking forward! Love yourself enough to know when it's enough. Always wish the best for others, and keep it pushing forward!
Sometimes you need comfort food. Something that helps fill you both physically and spiritually. I like potatoes for this! Especially red skin potatoes and red skin potatoes have lots of vitamin C. Here is a delicious and healthy recipe to try!
Red Skin Potatoes
2 Cups of red skin potatoes diced
1 and 1/2 tablespoon of olive oil
½ teaspoon garlic salt
½ teaspoon coarse black pepper
½ teaspoon parsley flakes
½ teaspoon thyme
¼ teaspoon garlic powder
Set the oven to 450 degrees. Grab a bowl, and place your potatoes inside the bowl. Pour the olive oil on top of the potatoes so that each potato is coated. Next, add the garlic salt, black pepper, thyme, and garlic powder and stir the mixture all together. Remove the potatoes from the bowl and place it on a cooking sheet sprayed with cooking spray. Sprinkle parsley flakes on top of the potatoes. Bake for 25 minutes or until the potatoes have a golden color to them. Remove from the oven, plate them, and enjoy!
Self-Care With Ajaba Naturals
This week friends I have been using the Ajaba Naturals Coffee Face Scrub, and I am in love. It is a mild exfoliation scrub that smells great! I use it a couple of times a week because my skin tends to be on the drier side, however when I use it, my skin feels soft. Remember always to moisturize directly after to hold in your moisture. The coffee scent is energizing and gives me the uplift that I need in the morning before starting my day. And friends, since we are starting fresh; let's do it with a fresh face!